Losses - PRIDE #4

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I can not believe we are half way through our PRIDE course.

We went to PRIDE #4 on Monday. This class was about loss. It really was a good class, best one so far...we will take so much from this class, even in regular life, and put it to use.
We had a new teacher this week, and she was amazing. She is an adoption social worker. I think she really got the class involved, and acknowledged we have experienced a lot of loss as well. Biggest one, our fertility. She said "I bet you never thought you would be sitting here, you probably all thought you would get pregnant, and had a picture in your mind of what your child would look like. I felt like screaming "YES" that is us!! She brought it to our attention that the child we will adopt will be going through a loss as well, loss of his/her birth parents and the loss of his/her foster parents. We spoke about how the child could act when they are going through a loss, and it would be the same as an adult, but children do not really understand the emotions they are having, so to keep an eye on them, and we will always be able to call the agency if we have any questions.

I got to thinking about loosing the picture of Aaron's and mine child. I always had a picture in my mind of getting pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding etc. I have to change my thinking that we will still have that family, it will just come another way. As the classes move forward, and we hand in more information for our home study, it gets more real. We even went to Babies R US on Sunday. Just to look around, see what we liked etc. It is hard, we hope to have a very young child, so what we will need will be different then what we would have bought if I gave birth. We basically went to get a good idea of how much to budget for our child. WOW. The stroller I want, Peg Skate, is $799.00. I do not think I have ever seen Aaron's eyes get so big, I think he had a mild heart attack. We also really like the Britax Stroller, and it was so nice too, looked so much like a Peg and it was $199.00, reg $249.00. It was just exciting to be able to know, this is happening, and something good will come at the end. Dreaming...it is so nice. It just made my day that Aaron and I got to share that.